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The first edition of the novel was published in , and was written by Neil Strauss. The book was published in multiple languages including English, consists of pages and is available in Paperback format. The main characters of this non fiction, psychology story are ,. The book has been awarded with , and many others.

All he can do is give her an opportunity to choose him. Print Ebook Audiobook. Get all my book summaries here. Great story and addictive to read. The Game by Neil Strauss is a step-by-step guide to picking up women told in story form. The biggest aha moment for me was that pickup is actually about men, not women.

Neg: an ambiguous statement or seemingly accidental insult delivered to a beautiful woman you just met, with the intent of actively demonstrating to her or her friends a lack of interest in her. IOI an indicator of interest : a sign a woman gives a man that indirectly reveals she is attracted to him. Peacock: to dress in a flashy and colorful way in order to draw attention from women. Examples: bright shiny shirts, light-up jewelry, or colorful cowboy hats.

Group Theory: beautiful women are usually accompanied by friends. After approaching the group, you must simultaneously win the approval of her friends — especially the men — while actively demonstrating a lack of interest in her. The 3-Second Rule: a woman should be approached within three seconds of first seeing her. Smile when you enter a room. As soon as you walk in a club, the game is on.

Besides confidence and a smile, the other characteristics of an alpha male are being well-groomed , possessing a sense of humor , connecting with people , and being seen as the social center of a room. Never approach a woman from behind. Speak over your shoulder so it looks like you might walk away at any minute. Learn about her first and let her earn the right to be hit on.

An amateur hits on a woman right away. A pro waits eight to ten minutes. One of the most important things to do with an attractive woman is to demonstrate value. What makes you any different from the last twenty guys who approached her? I now know this book is partly responsible for fuelling the rise of violent misogyny that normalised and formed the breeding ground for the resurgent far right.

This book is garbage and if you have a copy, I recommend incinerating it. Zero stars. View all 9 comments. Mar 11, Derek rated it really liked it.

Impossible to put down. This is a fascinating tale of a guy with marginal skills with the ladies despite fame , who sets out on a life changing mission to master picking up women. I dare you to try and not get hooked in the first few pages.

The characters are philanderers, gigolos, wannabes, braggarts, and every dysfunctional category in between. Their quest is obvious, and thrust in your face; to hook up with as many beautiful women as possible. Strauss becomes prolific at the social marketing Impossible to put down. Strauss becomes prolific at the social marketing skill, and becomes addicted to his casanova killer abilities.

But as is so often the case, the higher levels of his skill seduction lessens the inner drive and excitement he feels towards his conquest. The chase becomes not only boring, but a bit frightening. Not a spoiler here, but the author reflects. He ponders. He accidentally finds an inner moment observing from third person where his life has now taken him.

He wonders if it is all he wants to become. He looks closer at his bizarre friends. All of them have major issues. Is this what he really wants? Strauss has written several best sellers, as well as for Rolling Stone, and literally has no competition when it comes to spinning tales of this type.

For this genre, I recommend picking up the best three. His encyclopedia-like book reads like a PHD college course on seduction. It is the template for what Strauss uses in the Game. It lays out the techniques, terminology, and methodology for anyone to learn. This is a devious sexual persuasion guide for hooking up, written by a psych doc who cruised the nightclubs with great success for a decade. It also contains an asset protection guide to set up pre-marriage to shield you from divorce.

Get these three, and get ready to laugh and learn. Really interesting books. Oct 14, Giselle rated it did not like it Shelves: 1-star , age-adult , borrowed , non-fiction , problematic. Read this almost ten years ago and was appalled that there is a community of PUAs Pick-Up-Artists that go around doing all of this just to get laid. So I read the book so I can be aware of these sleaze bags and their methods. They actually think Read this almost ten years ago and was appalled that there is a community of PUAs Pick-Up-Artists that go around doing all of this just to get laid.

Such utter BS! This is why men dehumanize women. Use women as objects, make them their property. Add another notch to their belt and brag to their buddies about how many women they have bedded.

A whole community of disgusting advice like this exists. Wish more women read this disgusting book so they can be more aware of what type of predator these men can be.

Mar 27, Polly Trout rated it liked it. There are some very valid reasons to skim through this controversial, pornographic, poorly written, and often obnoxious anthropological tour of the "seduction community," a network of men who use social psychology and hypnosis to pick up women.

It's fascinating and queasy at the same time. The seco There are some very valid reasons to skim through this controversial, pornographic, poorly written, and often obnoxious anthropological tour of the "seduction community," a network of men who use social psychology and hypnosis to pick up women.

The second reason is that although this book got slammed by feminists, Strauss is actually a whole lot smarter and more thoughtful than he first appears on the surface. The book is a pseudo-memoir in the gonzo journalism style, mixing participant observation with tall tales about life in the meat market. Strauss is not a missionary for the movement, but instead charts his own relationship with the seduction community from skepticism to enthusiasm to ambivalence to rejection.

I don't know how anyone could miss this, since the opening chapter is about a famous pickup artist's psychotic break and existential despair, and the book continuously circles around the underlying anxiety and loneliness that drives the pickup mentality. Compared to "Fear and Loathing," which does hilariously glorify drugs, sex, and mayhem, Strauss's gonzo style is more critical and distanced.

Here is how he ends the book: "And though I've learned everything there is is about attraction, seduction, and courtship in the past two years, I learned nothing about maintaining a healthy relationship. Being together has required a lot more time and work than learning to pick up women ever did, but it has brought me far greater satisfaction and joy. Perhaps that's because it is not a game. Sometimes it takes some baby steps to break out of a disabling mental box, and Strauss charts how sex can sometimes function as a psychic icebreaker to get somebody who is stuck moving forward towards real life.

The sex drive is powerful enough to motivate someone who has dug themselves into a deep and alienating silo to climb out of it, and that motivation, under the right circumstances, can help break them out of dysfunctional patterns that are not working. For example, my favorite part of the book comes early on: Strauss has just signed up for a "workshop" with a pickup artist, who is bringing him and some other shy and geeky guys to night clubs and teaching them how to pick up women.

Another guy in the same workshop is 26 and never even kissed a girl before. He is so shy that he cannot use a urinal, because peeing in front of other guys terrifies him. A few weeks later, he excitedly shares, "I can pee beside people now! It's all about confidence. So the stuff I learned in the workshop isn't just for chicks after all Just because you've always done something a certain way doesn't mean you are eternally doomed to repeat it, people can change and grow and learn.

The self is flexible. Social skills, like any skills, can be learned, studied, and honed. It's better to take a risk and throw yourself out there than to waste your life accruing bitter regrets. The only way to learn new skills is to be willing to experiment and fail and sometimes look foolish, but if you stick with it and pay attention and get good advice and mentoring, you will get better at it eventually and be glad that you had the patience and balls to move out of your crippling little box.

Our society is filled with women and men who are lonely and bored and stuck and who want desperately to connect and live and have fun but don't know how to get there. The sad thing about the book is that it documents the tragic lack of vision in people who settle for the shallow, canned interactions of casual sex rather than taking a real risk with full, authentic relationships. Mar 22, Marrick rated it liked it.

I learned that I am what, in pick up artist "PUA" parlance, is called a "natural. So I didn't pick this book up for its instructional content. Rather, I was intrigued into reading this book by curiosity. I wanted to see how my life experience stacked up with my preconceived notion of a true PUA. I envisioned a PUA as being a highly confident, suave, cool operator that women swoon over without being able to control themselves. I learned that my concept of I learned that I am what, in pick up artist "PUA" parlance, is called a "natural.

I learned that my concept of what the PUA is, prior to reading this book, was wrong. In fact, PUAs are very insecure, needy, but intelligent people that have figured out how to give off the illusion of being confident and interesting, to trick or some may say "persuade" women into casual, short-term and primarily physical relationships.

Yet, they long for the long-term relationships, built on emotional connections, that us "naturals" seek and often maintain, but have mistakenly chosen what they perceive to be the best path to get there- i. I'll cease any further substantive review because I don't want to spoil the book for anyone interested in picking it up pun intended. But I will add two more comments: First, viewed in a general sense, the concepts discussed in this book within the context of meeting and successfully "closing" women, can be applied to all other aspects of life.

I plan to incorporate them into my practice and use some of them to "pick up" new clients and negotiate and close business deals. Many of the concepts in Strauss' book were restatements of concepts I found in marketing and persuasive psychology books I've read. Second, the writing is good and it flows well despite Strauss' style of doing the little things that writing instructors and agents caution against- for instance, his frequent use of descriptors that end in "ingly," and switching tenses too often in the same chapter.

Some writers can pull this off and still give you a good read. Strauss is one of those writers. It's a page turner. Oct 30, Jenny rated it really liked it Recommended to Jenny by: Pete's book club. Oh wow, hard to say if I'm horrified or fascinated or what.

I guess some of both. Good thing I'm reading this for book club cuz I can't wait to discuss. I can't believe this is for real. And then what I'm wondering is, what are girls supposed to do? Just sit there and look pretty? But here's some quotes I liked: "In life, people tend to wait for good things to come to them. And by waiting, they miss out. Usually, what you wish for doesn't fall in your lap; it falls somewhere nearby, and you Oh wow, hard to say if I'm horrified or fascinated or what.

Usually, what you wish for doesn't fall in your lap; it falls somewhere nearby, and you have to recognize it, stand up, and put in the time and work it takes to get it. This isn't because the universe is cruel. It's because the universe is smart.

It has its own cat-string theory and knows we don't appreciate things that fall into our laps. But love isn't like that. It's a free-flowing energy that comes and goes when it pleases.

Sometimes it stays for life; other times it stays for a second, a day, a month, or a year. So don't fear love when it comes simply because it makes you vulnerable. But don't be surprised when it leaves, either. Just be glad you had the opportunity to experience it. Everything you do counts and brings you closer to your goal. The right lifestyle is something that is worn, not discussed. Nov 08, Elyse Walters rated it it was amazing.

One of the best things about looking through the 'Giveaways' on Goodreads is discovering new books coming out soon by authors you have read. Funny gift, I know But I enjoyed it more than I thought I enjoyed it One of the best things about looking through the 'Giveaways' on Goodreads is discovering new books coming out soon by authors you have read.

I enjoyed it tons and tons more than I thought! Strauss was very frank about his 'logical' methods: "Teaching men how to be more confident in 'picking up women'. The best part of the book all kidding aside --was the science behind behind the techniques, and his personal 'real' life stories. The book felt truthful - scary to a face this truth at times , It was nice to discover I didn't think Neil Stauss was a asshole. I saw his heart!

Most, the book was very entertaining! View all 3 comments. Nov 06, La-Lionne rated it did not like it. I don't get this book. It's pathetic, the book, the men in it and their cult. What a bunch of losers. It's mind boggling that this book was once on NYT best sellers list. I heard it being mentioned on Invasion of Privacy podcast and taught that it will be an interesting read. I was expecting to be thrown in into a secret society of men who decided to share their secrets on picking up women.

What I got was a pile of bullshit on a pile of crap on a pile of whatthegoddamnfuck. I refuse to beli I don't get this book. I refuse to believe that events in the book really happend in real life. Author is either full of it or world is over populated with women with tons of daddy issues, who would cut off their right tit for a side glance from a low life idiot.

Their tactics and pick up lines were beyond stupid. The secret to picking up a woman - never show her you are interested right away, start with an insult first, about her character, the way she looks. You should ignore a woman at first, talk to her friend in stead. If she does comment on something you said, smirk and say that it's cute the way her nose wiggles when she laughs, get her friends to notice too and get them laughing too.

Then show her a magic trick. I don't know who to be mad at, these men in the book, or women who fell for this idiocity. If a dude would say something like that to me, I would give him such a nasty stare down that his skin would start itching.

I'm not exaggerating, that's the big secret. Fake piercings are a must. Make shit up about your life, never show your true self. The self proclaimed love gurus talk a big game, but when you read further, you learn that they are nothing more than dudes who's mommies didn't hugged them enough.

In one chapter you read about a guy sleeping with tons of women, in the next, that he's living with his parents and his grown ass sibling who's married and living at home too. He talks about mind blowing threesomes and I wonder how he managed to sneak women in without his parents raising an eyebrow. What do women think, when a guy tells a fancy ass story of how big of a big shot he is, then brings you to his parents home to have sex.

Women in the book don't question that, they seem to fall head over heels for this nonsence. And they are talking about seducing a women of a high caliber. That is why I don't believe the events in the book. What smart, well educated, self confidant woman would fall for it? Because that is their priority target.

According to these men, every one of them, because their lousy pick up lines are rock solid. And it's not just women in US who fall for this crap, the dudes are known worldwide, they travel from country to country picking up the best of the best of them. Then there is the bullshit bit about the author climbing the latter of the pick up chain. He hasn't even got the chance to sniff a boob, yet his new buddies are in awe of his talents. I'm sure author wouldn't mind me calling him pathetic too, because his inner monologues hints towards him realizing how full of crap his new friends are.

Then yet again, after DNFing this jewl, I read about the author and see a picture of him keeping the same makeover that the losers suggested. And then, what do you know, a picture with his wife, that could be his daughter, who is a model, not well know, but still, has the title. According to the author, this journey was suppose to be an educational.

What did he learn? Nothing, if the info about him is anything to go by. I just couldn't take it anymore of the nonsense. So those are the secrets to picking up women?

Are you fucking kidding me? Losers like these existed since the beging of time. It's not a secret. Why was this book a bestseller? I'll never understand.

Shelves: audiobook , memoir , california , psychology , non-fiction , sociology , self-help , hollywood. People are likely to have strong feelings about this book, from disgust to bemusement to desperate interest on the part of the AFCs "Average Frustrated Chumps" that Strauss talks so much about, after confessing to being one. However, it should be understood that this particular book is a memoir and an expose by a Rolling Stone journalist, not an actual pickup guide. While Strauss talks a lot about the "seduction techniques" he and his fellow PUAs Pick-Up Artists developed, this isn't a self- People are likely to have strong feelings about this book, from disgust to bemusement to desperate interest on the part of the AFCs "Average Frustrated Chumps" that Strauss talks so much about, after confessing to being one.

While Strauss talks a lot about the "seduction techniques" he and his fellow PUAs Pick-Up Artists developed, this isn't a self-help guide for teaching them. If that is what you're looking for, Strauss still runs a company call "Stylelife Academy" which sells workshops and DVDs and coaching, etc. I listened to this book narrated by the author himself because of course I have heard of these "Pickup Artists" and while I have no interest in playing "the Game" or becoming the sort of person they describe, it's an interesting, fascinating, somewhat pathetic subculture, but it's also instructive.

For example, feminists tend to react most strongly to PUAs and their philosophy, which tends to treat women as puzzles you have to unlock. Get the right combination of words and gestures and you score the poontang. It's obviously dehumanizing in its implications, and Strauss keeps going back and forth, admitting on the one hand that PUA lifestyle is dehumanizing and tends to lead to misogyny, but on the other hand, defending the poor involuntary celibates who are just looking for love and can't figure out why what they are doing isn't working.

The more interesting thing and possibly infuriating, fascinating, or disturbing, depending on your POV is that it's evident that these routines work.

It's not mind control or a secret passcode that will get women to have sex with you, but Strauss and his PUAs really have figured out a series of approaches that can be executed in an almost algorithmic fashion, and which elicit desired responses i. The key to it is that they are playing a numbers game, which means getting over the natural aversion most people have to making countless approaches and being rebuffed the vast majority of times, and perhaps more importantly, they are looking for certain types of women and certain types of relationships.

After spending a couple of years in this lifestyle, Strauss becomes weary of it because he and his posse are living like unwashed bachelors in a Hollywood mansion, with hot and cold running women, internecine catfights male and female over everything from relationships to money to household chores, and in the meantime, while PUAs do get laid a lot, very few of them wind up in fulfilling long-term relationships.

Their original objective getting a woman to bestow interest and affection and sex has become an end in itself, and as Strauss describes it, the very process becomes addictive.

That said, listen to how he describes these techniques, and you can see that while most women will say "Oh, that would never work on me," in fact it does. I think what a lot of PUAs miss is that perfecting calculated psychological manipulation as an art and a science isn't gender specific - you could easily develop similar techniques to work on men, or for application outside the domain of romance.

Keep in mind that these guys, in the book, are mostly operating in Hollywood. You can do this in LA or Vegas or NYC - I suspect they wouldn't advise you to "peacock" in quite the same way if you are trying some Game at your church social in Boise.

Mystery, it turns out, is a mess, and that's true of pretty much all the PUAs. None of them start out as "alpha males," which is why they do so much posturing to convince everyone they are one.

Most of them are really sad, damaged little boys. This shows itself over and over again as no matter how much Mystery and Strauss score, inside they are still the same old insecure, needy guys seeking female approval that they always were. Strauss's account of life in the PUA community makes it easy to see how they'd attract a certain sort of person, and yet it doesn't seem to lead anywhere but emptiness. But there is more to them than desperate guys trying to get laid.

Strauss manages to use his "Game" even on celebrities. In the presence of Tom Cruise, he sees a true alpha male; Cruise may be a Scientologist wacko, but he's also a genuinely charismatic and forceful personality. Strauss ends up sharing a house with Courtney Love for weeks, dates one of her band members, and during an interview with a very bored and uncooperative Britney Spears, uses his PUA techniques to turn it around and have Britney eating out of the palm of his hand. It's also funny when he talks about the splintering and franchising of PUA "Projects," particularly towards the end, as Strauss goes cruising Hollywood bars and finds all the women reacting with bored amusement to his lines, which have now been disseminated so thoroughly that everyone has heard them.

This book isn't going to help you with your love life, but it's a fascinating look at psychology and a subculture that seems most fit for reality TV shows. May 30, Minxycampbellstein rated it it was amazing. This book addicted me even before I owned it. I found it on the floor of a friend's house and devoured two chapters before I ran to Borders to get it for myself. Then I found myself staying up till all hours to finish it, taking notes, chatting with friends about it, and reading everything the author put out.

And I'm a woman. I didn't find it offensive, ridiculous, or prurient, I found it a nice tasty behavioral anthropological meal. At the same time, I didn't pity or laugh at the guys pictured i This book addicted me even before I owned it. At the same time, I didn't pity or laugh at the guys pictured inside. Real social pressures were at play on everyone involved, and Strauss depicted all his subjects with brotherly affection.

Even the women, who a lesser writer would have objectified completely, were treated with respect and fairness. He's honest about his feelings for them, or lack thereof. It struck me a break-neck epic full of anti-heroes and anti-heroines all competing for love, sex, and glory, and I ate it up. Jun 19, Leo Robertson rated it liked it. Rating this because of what it provided me based on my own reasons for reading writing research.

I've been reading a little about Cluster B personality disorders, and I think the rules and attitudes outlined in this book relate a lot to that. The pithy arguments in favour of the lifestyle it promotes effectively including "Some of these dweebs would've shot up their schools if I hadn't helped them lose their virginity" sounded almost identical to those in favour of sociopaths from Confessions Rating this because of what it provided me based on my own reasons for reading writing research.

The pithy arguments in favour of the lifestyle it promotes effectively including "Some of these dweebs would've shot up their schools if I hadn't helped them lose their virginity" sounded almost identical to those in favour of sociopaths from Confessions of a Sociopath , one of which was, "Sociopaths do a lot of good in their community because they are often high-ranking lawyers, CEOs etc. By that logic, you can bet that better, non-sociopathic candidates should rightfully have the higher ranking jobs stolen from them by unscrupulous manipulators.

It's like, these men tried everything but changing their attitudes towards women. They went all out to do anything but that. Do you think you can be contemptuous and compassionate at the same time? Neil accepted, and Mystery dubbed him with his pickup alias: Style. Style had just six weeks before the next workshop, so he started training rigorously to improve his game. He read books on a range of related subjects, including body language, social dynamics, NLP, magic, and mind-reading.

Style constantly went out sarging hitting on women with other men in the community so that he could study their sarging techniques in order to emulate them. Style began to discover that confidence was a critical part of the game: PUAs needed it to complete successful pickups, and they gained it from their successes.

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Neil Strauss, a journalist and the author of The Game , always struggled with women. Since he was a teenager, he felt self-conscious and awkward around the opposite sex, which led to rejection, creating a vicious cycle.

Then, in the early s, when Neil was in his early 30s, he got a call from a book editor who wanted him to write a book modeled after The How-to-Lay-Girls Guide , a manual for picking up women. The guide sourced advice from dozens of pickup artists PUAs , and it had been circulating in an online community of men Mystery was a celebrated PUA who had written more than 3, posts on the community message boards.

Mystery started offering workshops for PUAs-in-training shortly after Neil joined the community; naturally, Neil had to sign up. However, while Jeffries led seminars, Mystery was the first to bring trainees into clubs for real-time coaching.

Although Neil was investigating the community for his book assignment, he also earnestly wanted to learn from the PUAs. He hoped that this could signal the end of his struggles with women.

However, Neil was also embarrassed to admit that he was so bad with women that he was now paying for advice from self-proclaimed experts. Which have you abided by, if any? Neil had been frequenting bars and clubs, practicing his craft with other men from the community. Between his practice and his posts to the online message boards, Neil was quickly moving up in the seduction community. Neil refused to miss out on this chance to apprentice with a guru, so he convinced Mystery to hold his next workshop in Belgrade.

Mystery dubbed him Style. Style began training rigorously to improve his game in the six weeks before the next workshop. Mystery had another workshop coming up in two months, in Miami. Style set a goal to meet all the top pickup artists PUAs before then. The seduction community had several pickup gurus, each pedaling a different seduction strategy. The gurus competed for disciples, discrediting each other in the process.

Juggler advocated tactics that were bold and unorthodox. For example, he told his students to get over their fear of picking up women by calling random numbers from the phone book and asking for movie recommendations, or by convincing a homeless person to give them a quarter.

Juggler also encouraged PUAs-in-training to make their pickups more challenging by telling women that they worked as garbage men or Pickup tactics range from arrogant humor to hypnosis, and the effectiveness of each one depends on the conviction of the person using it.

He had forged friendships with some of the men, and they went out sarging together regularly.